i never get when people act so ashamed of how they were when they were teenagers, like "why was i like that? Why didn't anyone tell me I was wrong?" like, did you at least have fun? because i desperately wish i had leaned into that stuff more so that i could at least have fun memories instead of just me being a boring recluse with no observable personality.
like, would you have rathered people make you ashamed of yourself when you were a teenager? for what?